january 2021
What were your first steps in 2021?
I rested and spend a looot of time with my family. I also engaged with frisky lovies on instagram. At some point I started facing perfectionism in 2020.
Elza Budder once told me, my rawness in what I do and share inspires her. It empowered me in trying. Grandma says “There’s nothing but trying”. I want to hold on to that rawness in 2021 and bring forth what wants to come out. Within and around me, in my expression also on social media. I’m holding my hand and giving myself the space to learn and come forth at my own pace.
picture taken by @namidanielle in basel, december 2020
You manage Friskyness on your own without experience in the fashion industry. What are difficulties, what has 2020 looked like for you and what keeps you going?
Friskyness came out of the passion and butterflies when being surrounded by all those fabrics and sharing that passion with my childhood friend Rita who in Ghana makes her everyday by sewing. No one introduced me to the fashion industry and how to build up a brand. Sisters like Rita encouraged me to start. Start whatever is in my mind, share, create, to dream and dream big. No dream seems to be too big. I started with what felt right, what I’ve been wishing to experience myself. I feel like I understood freedom and enjoyment in being. Being freely me.
Sometimes when I see how much more there is to learn, I feel scared, like quitting - overwhelmed. Finances can be scary and then the vision feels far far away. 2020 has been a year of not giving up. Of trying to give space for the process whatever it comes with. 2020 challenged me to live patiently, accepting the situations and doing what I can to experience and spread joy. There’s this time to be a life and what is life if it is not celebration? I danced, felt, enjoyed. Hurt came with seeing the murder of a black man killed by racism. Hurt and anger and determination.
“I want to be more frisky - more sassy!. ”
I practice honouring that we came from daydreaming and no experience in the fashion industry. I honour that we put in the necessary work to speak and create Friskyness into existence. We keep on going, looking back and looking forward. I reminded myself that I am exactly at where I am supposed to be. “Trust the process. The process is you. You are the process” and “Ich gehöre hier hin, meine Stimme macht Sinn” came to be my mantra. Friskyness now has a website. A website where I can share my words, my thoughts, my work with you. We started working with Auntie Pat which is joy, Joseph Sir Martey and Agyare and the crew, Madame Julie and Grandma got involved. The SINGA Community, Sexuelle Gesundheit Schweiz and Kanza have been teaching communities to work with. The first year of friskyness has giving me strength. The whole frisky lovers and partners, many more sisters.
I’m learning to appreciate where we are
- 2020 - you were wow!
Manifestation of 2021:
I am taking baths and scrubbing my soul of layers that do not fit (anymore).
For this year I set my focus on consistency and growth, in trying my best every day,
supporting and impressing first and foremost myself.
I am my main source.
- Your tune of today?
